We communicate and engage in relationship building using verbal and non-verbal forms of communication. The original communication system used one’s ability to read a person’s feelings and thoughts through the way they behaved much before even formal communication evolved. Body language scores high and creates an impression instantly as a form of non-verbal communication.
There are 250,000 different facial expressions! 5000 distinct hand gestures and a lot more! While assessing or making a judgement about the personality of a person it takes only 7 seconds. First impressions are made through your body language and you can always use it to your advantage if you know a few tips.
The tried and true rule of usability is to “pay attention to what users do, not just what they say.”
My training seminars at Hope Factory across pan India empowers employees to use nonverbal language to be confident, stand out, and gain trust, and credibility. My unique background experience as a detective, corporate trainer and body language expert provides me the impetus to give you a couple of tips on using body language for creating greater impact and influencing positive decision making. Communicating through right mannerism and using positive body language is empowering.
Tip 1 : Good posture
Good posture speaks volumes about your confidence levels. People who slump or slouch express laziness, and disinterest.Remember to keep your shoulders and head erect to show a positive mind and attitude. When you look at someone with lowered shoulders it gives the impression that they are tired or lackluster.
Tip 2 : Cross arms are a no-no!
Listening with arms crossed are a strict no-no…it depicts sheer disagreement, not being open minded and is unfavorable. Sometimes people do that to rest arms when they are tired. However more often than not it shows negativity and closed communication.
Tip 3 : Eye contact is impacting
It’s important to give eye contact when communicating with people. This fosters reliability in what you are trying to convey and is impacting. Eye contact also exudes confidence and demonstrates that you are active and interested in interacting. Avoid prolonged eye contact or staring as this can make people uncomfortable.
Tip 4 : Handshake – It’s an art!
Many researches rate shaking hands as one of the top gesture’s in body language. Hence before shaking hands it is important to evaluate your own handshake and make sure it is brief and firm. A limp or an extreme bone crushing handshake should be avoided. Eye contact and a firm hand shake should always go hand in hand.
Tip 5 : Personal space
Remember to respect personal space, for yourself and others. Always maintain an approximate distance of around two feet during your interactions; this enables freedom of space and comfort in expressing your thoughts. Respecting others will go a long way in establishing rapport and trust.
Tip 6 : The face says it all!
Our facial expression speaks volumes of what we are thinking and feeling, they summate our state of mind and body. A smile, yawn, sadness, grimace or angry squinted eyes can either prevent or encourage open communication. Control of your facial expressions, can make all the difference when interacting with others.